Listen To Your Self-talk!
Realize the power your words have, so choose them (and your friends) wisely!
Words are very powerful, they can help or heal. They can make you cry or laugh. They can create or destroy. They can comfort or cause pain.
Words create emotions, and those words create action, and from those actions your life is formed. Most of your beliefs are created by words, which means they can also be changed by words.
Simply choose new words to describe how you’re feeling or how you experienced an event can instantly change the emotional experience.
If you describe a fantastic experience as being “Ok”. That experience is now diminished and flat because of your limited use of words.
You’re in control of your life, so you need to consciously evaluate and keep improving the content of your vocabulary to make sure it’s pulling you in the direction you desire instead of a direction you want to avoid.
Here’s a great example from Anthony Robbins.
Quote: “If you’re in the habit of saying you “hate” things– you “hate” your hair; you “hate” your job; you “hate” having to do something. Do you think this raises the intensity of your negative emotional state than if you used a phrase like “I prefer something else”? End quote.
Change the phrase from “I hate” to the phrase “I prefer”.
Could it be that simple?
Here Are The Results Of Changing Your Inner Dialog
People who struggled with financial issues, career disadvantages or who had always thought of them as disorganized, get in control of their lives.
People who have fought with self-esteem, weight problems, relationship problems for quite a time, learn that most of their problems was in how they saw themselves, and begin to see themselves taking control of there lives, being healthy and slim or developing a positive relationship, for the first time in years.
- Business owners become more confident in leading their teams.
- Sales people become more focused on solving their customer’s problems and got more orders.
- Parents learn that what they say to their children has a huge impact to their lives and by re-programming their own Self-Talk they talk differently and more positively to their children too.
Does that sound like a miracle for you? It is not a miracle.
It’s listening to your new Self Talk, an easy and effective way to change the old mental programs that caused the problem in the first place and replace them with empowering new programs that can make all the difference in your life!
By listening to your inner dialog you’re changing your programs – and when you change your programs, you change everything.
If you haven’t tried it, you should. Listening to it changes lives – in the most positive, possible way.
When you listen to Self-Talk, you’re listening to your future!”
So lets start with how to motivate yourself, because everything from the outside is only temporary. To succeed, to grow, to be confident and full of self-esteem, to go further even when times are difficult – you have to be motivated from the inside out.
- “I’d prefer an new car”
- “I’d prefer an new hairdo”
- “I’d prefer a new job”
- “I’d prefer new clothes”
- “I’d prefer to do something else”
The intensity of those statements dropped big time because you used different words. If you simply change your habitual vocabulary, and these would be the words you consistently use to describe your life and your emotions.
If you change your habitual vocabulary you can instantaneously change the way you think, how you feel and how you LIVE!!
Your Self-Talk that you’re using right now is determining your destiny. Think about that for a second (maybe a little longer). Your words are shaping your beliefs and impacting your actions.
- I give myself the freedom to live up to my own expectations. And I am enjoying it.
- I believe in the best for myself – I know that greatness begins in my mind. I know that what I believe about myself is what I will become.
- I choose to never limit myself by negative beliefs of others. Instead I allow myself to open up to new opportunities.
- I have the spirit and the drive as well as a strong winning attitude. I believe in the best possible outcome in everything I do.
- Even though, I have had doubts about myself and what I be, do or have, I allow myself to throw out any disbelief that ever hold me back.
- I have the ability to focus on one thing at a time. I concentrate my attention at it and get the job done.
- I’ve got the power to get it done, the patience to see it through, no matter what the challenge is.
- If I think of any challenge in front of me, I know I always give my best and therefore become more confident and stronger.
- Whenever a problem starts to get me down, I stand tall and get myself back up. I start to think and act like a winner.
- When frustration threatens me, I just tell myself a new story. A story of believing in myself, being self-assured and self-confident in a powerful manner.
- What ever requires the very best of me, I choose to over deliver and surprise myself.
- Today is a wonderful day. So I choose to live my life in joy, love and forgiveness.
- I know it is all up to me – and that is good. Because that way I can choose how to act, think, feel and belief about it. It is all about how I look at it and what I do about it.
- I am so grateful. In so many ways.
Read that to yourself out loud in front of a mirror each morning and evening for the next few days. At first it will sound unfamiliar to you but after a few days it sounds so “normal” and natural. Have fun doing it!
Give your subconscious a new set of directions which will help you motivate yourself:
- I choose to believe in myself. I have talent, skills and ability. I set my goals and I constantly reach them.
- I have developed a sense of pride of who I am. I like people and they like me.
- Nothing seems to stop me. I turn problems into advantages. Now I find possibilities in things that I’ve never given a chance before.
- I am full of energy. I feel so alive. I enjoy life and that is what I send out and what other people can see and feel.
- I know I can accomplish anything I choose and I am ready to go for it. I refuse to let anyone or anything hold me back.
- I have strength and power. I welcome challenges. I am getting stronger and stronger with every challenge I am confronted with.
- I have a clear picture in mind of what I want. I allow myself imagine it and going for it. I know I can do it.
- Problems do not frighten me. They just mean that I am alive and I know I can come up with a solution for them.
- I choose to trust myself that I got what it takes and how to use it. Each day I am getting more confident about it.
- There is no problem I cannot defeat or turn around and make it work for me.
- I am honest and sincere. I like to work with people and they like me.
- I communicate in a clear way. I am organized and in control of myself.
- I choose to never blame anyone else for the circumstances of my life.
- I accept my failings, learn from them and move past them.
- I also accept my victories and celebrate them.
- I never demand perfection of myself, but I expect the very best of what I have to give.
- I choose to never give myself excuses. Today I have the inner strength to do what it takes to achieve what I really want.
- I give myself the permission to live my dreams. And dreams come true.
- That belief in myself is so strong that there is nothing that diminishes my spirit.
- I am so grateful in so many ways!
Much of where you are in life right now is due to your Self-Talk. So if you’re using words that are disempowering. CHANGE THEM!!! to words that will empower you.
How do you know what you’re Self-Talk is?
Simple really. When an event or challenge happens in your life how do you react, what do you say? If you’re saying it out loud you’re probably saying it to yourself, and vice versa.
Here are some sentences you can use to start changing your vocabulary:
- Go from Depressed to Not on top of it
- Go from Failing to Learning
- Go from I hate to I prefer
- Go from Irritated to Stimulated
- Go from Overwhelmed to Busy
- Go from Stressed to Energized
- Go from Rejected to Overlooked
The difference between successful people and non-successful people is, successful people do what other people won’t do. THINK ABOUT IT!!!!
To get you kick started here is some daily Self-Talk:
- “Today is my day. I choose to discover the best in me. I can do it and I deserve it”.
- “I never let circumstances get me down. Every day I focus and work on what I can do to live a good life and choose to acquire a positive attitude”.
- “Being truthful each day is the best gift I can give myself and others. I believe in myself and the best outcome in everything I do”.
- Nobody gets to decide how my day is going to be but me. I refuse to allow negativity into my life”.
If that’s my self-talk do you think I’m going to have a bad day just because someone else has? If someone is so hell bent on having a bad day let them, but you don’t have to.
Today is your day.
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